set 381: “'V""'—WUHWRUTHQW .... V 'r. \\\\\\\‘.L\\n\\ - x. \\\\\L\\\|\\ \x“ lt DETROIT, FEB. B.- 1890. THE HOUSEHOLD-"Supplement. LIFE’S BETTER INFL UENUFS. Better the song and the smile. my dear, Better the song and the smile; Brief is the time we may linger here, Little avails either sigh or tear; Better the song and the smile, my deir, Better the song and the smile. Better the laugh and the jest, my dear, Better the laugh and the jest, Sunshine of heart and of merry cheer. Chasing the shadows that oft appear; Better the laugh and the jest, my dear. Better the laugh and the jest. Better the word that is kind, my dear. Better the word that is kind. Speech that is cold and perchance severe Well may be spared as we journey here; Better the word that is kind, my dear, Better the word that is kind. Life’s but a day at the best, my dear. Life’s but a day at the best, Be your endeavor to brighten each yes r. Making less frequent the sigh and the tear: Life’s but a day at the best, my dear, Life’s but a day at the best. —————¢O.———— CHEAPNESS VS. QUALITY AND USEFULNESS. I could not help thinking the other day as 1 strolled down the aisles of one of our big bazars, between counters covered with all sorts of fanciful, useless articles, how much money is spent annually for just such » nonsensical trifles, good for nothing (to speak of) in the first instance, and soon spoiled, iled, broken, and thrown away. I wonder fit cw people come to give house-room to such trash, and patiently pick it up and dust it and take care of it even for a time. Mats and match-safes, easels that are weak in the legs, fancy candlesticks and candles that will not burn, hairpin baskets, little trays for pins, for jewelry, boxes for thimhles, and an array of vases of every material, size, style, shape and price, varying only in the promptness with which they will tip over— what a quantity of trifles that have no earth- ly excuse for their existence, yet which people will buy, it seems to me sometimes in utter wantonness. “ Isn’t it sweet! and onlyaquarter!” and the quarter changes owners, and the buyer, when she unwraps her package at home, I hope has the grace to ask herself “ Why did I spend my money so foolishly?” Yet the same woman will go down town next day and do the same thing over again. How much money is spent for cheap jewelry, worn a little time, thrown aside and replaced by new, only the proprietors of these bazars could tell, “Oh, it don’t cost much; when 1 get tired of it it won’t be much to lose,” say the girls as they load themselves with bangles and rings and gold beads and bracelets; and perhaps they enjoy their finery as much as if it were genuine. But all the same the habit of foolish spending of money is fostered and encouraged, and the woman will do what the girl did. There are a great many temp- tations to Spend money in town which never entice the farmer’s wife, partly be- cause she has not much money to spend in the first instance, and proposes to make a good use of that little; partly because the allurements are not spread before her. When she spends money she spends it for value received. Townswomen might profit by her prudent example, for it is a great mistake to believe the only people who see hard times are the farmers. It is astonishing to observe how cheap- ness is the one quality considered by the majority of buyers. The announcement of a “ Take-off Sale ” or a “ Terrible Tumble in Prices” will draw an eager, jostling crowd. to pull things over on the counters, try on, and buy if they have the money, simply because they think they are getting bargains. The assurance of the salesmen that they will never be able to buy so rea- sonably again, and the cupidity inherent in human nature which leads us to strive to get more than we pay for—or think we pay for ——makes many transfers possible in which generally the seller comes out fairly ahead. If a really good article cannot be sold at a low price, we are ofiered an imitation which we are assured “ looks just as well at half the money.” Let a thing become popular and it is at once imitated, and thousands buy the sham because they think it “looks nicer than it is.” Hence we have gold and silver jewelry which has not an atom of the precious metals in its com- position. jet and amber and garnet that are only colored glass, Royal Worcester shapes and colorings in common pottery, cut glass that is pressed, celluloid that imitates ivory and something else that imitate:- the. cellu- loid, and so it goes. The woman who can- not atford a seal coat buys a plush one, which the merchant assures her can't be told from real fur: and the woman who wears seal rips a litte place som where on it,‘ so the skin will show and convince people that she wears genuine seal and not seal plush. Persian lamb is imitated in As- trachan, and the old cat’s skin is known to the trade as “black hare” when made up in mulls. Sarah silk was onceasub- stantial good weight and good quality article; now, except in black, the market is stocked with thin, narrow, sleazy goods, twill but resemblingit in no other particular. As soon as the cheaper grades could be obtained people bought them, and there was no call for the finer quality. When we come to articles of food the de- mand for cheapness has led to such copious adulterations that nobody knows whether he is eating pepper or brick dust, vinegar or dilute sulphuric acid. or drinking tea or ex- tract of willow leaves. Candy is principally glucose and terra alba, and half our salted almonds are only burnt peanuts. Salt is about the only thing that is too cheap to be worth adulterating; and sometimes I think even that has lost some of its saline pro- perties. What am I going to do about it? I am going to eat my modicum of brickdust, terra alba. chiccory, and all the rest of it, and be glad we can “ buy things so cheap,” and that “the poor man has a show.” BEATRIX. _. we... .4‘..._—__ POSSIBILII'IES OF MOTHERHOOD. Probably comparatively few mothers stop to think of the awful—I use the word in its fullest sense, awe-inl—responsibility which rests upon them, when a human soul and the temple which it inhabits, is given into their care. As clay in the hands of the potter, or mar- ble under the sculptor’s chisel, so is a child in the hands of its mother. The clay may become an ugly, ill-looking piece of pottery, or it may be formed by skillful fingers into a thing of rare beauty. The block of marble may become either a hideous, distorted im- age or it may be molded into a form of grace and loveliness. So the child, with wise and loving treat- ment, that combination which is, alas! too rare, with its plastic mind and unformed character is capable of being shaped into a being which the Creator has expressed as but little “lower than the angels.” Take a little child when it first begins to take notice of surrounding objects. All seems new and strange to its unaccustomed eyes; even its own pink fingers and toes are a mysterywhich it is never weary of trying to fathom. Only virgin soil there; no deep prejudices to be eradicated ere the seed can be sown. The seed can be sown—~ah! there’s the trouble! What seed shall be sown ? For as the seed, so shall the harvest be. But stop a moment! Has not the seed been sown hundreds of years before the child was born ‘2 _ Some one has wisely said that in order to produce a perfect man we must begin a worth 69 to 75 cents a yard, with the surah ‘5 thousand years before he is born.‘ Heredityl INTENTIONAL SECOND EXPOSURE 4: ‘1‘ HE HOT-TS EHOLD HEALTHFUL CLOTHING. DOMESTIC HELPS. HOUSEHOLD HINTS Iwish toexpres-t. through the 110131110111 I . _ In“: . . KNIT goods. by which we suppose is 8 few ”10“?!” WW?“ "“4111“- “5* WV Wind _ 11911.4 “.6 some he»? “has, f0" 0“ ““4”?“4 meant the knitted under rule-211‘, a Down Emt while raadinr Mrs. \\::_21[u:ct112:5’ paper zeamed “"m‘ :3xper1memu1g and other wr.n11a:1.so:,4sm-ake 1142.4.11104.15:audsmoothost on farmozs’ Wives 0.41:1 faxhi-uist. .1 think “U“‘QF’I‘H I , _ I _ rag carpet. ’1‘11393 goods also tab:- 2: good her paper as :1 “410,65 very 5:31;»:1. 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Men do not gather grapes of thorns nor figs of thistles. ' But a judicious mother can do much to counteract even heredity. She knows in which direction the child’s failings will prob- ably lie. and is on the watch for them, and upon the first indication of their appearance she will be awake to her responsibility. “ Line upon line, precept upon precept” is her motto. Great responsibilities are within her power. It means slow and tedious work, it cannot be accomplished in a hurry; but think of it, mothers! might it not be possible with the right kind of training, by influence and example, to rear up our children to a much higher standard of manhood and womanhood than that of the present day? Is the world growing better or worse is a question which learned men are fond or de- bating; but there would be no doubt of its growing better if every mother in the land understood perfectly how to rear her chil- dren, both physically and mentally, for their best good. Here is another point to be looked at. Not one woman in a dozen, probably, is fitted to be a mother. Young girls marry and bear children without the slightest knowledge of their proper care and quite likely with very little idea as to the care of themselves. Mothers should teach their daughters that which they ought to know, and not leave the knowledge of subjects of such vital import- ance to be learned at school or from Older companions. Teach your young daughter how to take care of herself; give her your reasons for wishing her to allow no familiariiies from young men. Forewarned is forearmed; and many a young girl has been ruined. who, had she been possessed of knowledge which it was her mother’s duty to have imparted to her. might have been saved from the tempt- er’s snare. But to return to the suoj ect proper: Many an overworked and tired mother is obliged to be content with attending to the more pressing personal needs of her children, and leave undone much that she would be glad to devote more attention to. Another class of mothers feel their ignorance of the best methods to be employed in order to obtain those results to which they aspire; they know what manner of man or woman they would like their child to be, but are not sure what course to pursue to accomplish their de- sire. Children are great imitators, and as agen- al thing the parents’ conduct and language at home may be judged by that of their chil- dren. Watch your child; notice carefully the effect of harsh or fretful words upon him. Nine times out of ten he will reflect your own mood. Is the child to bla us who is brought up in a home where harsh. cutting words, frequent fits of anger, and stinging blows, are the daily example set before him. if he grows up with the same defects of character ? Who that has taken the slight- est notice of little children does not know how quickly they respond to kindness! Lead and not drive them; go, and they will follow you. Oh mothers! I beseech you, give this sacred theme of motherhood more thought. With you lies the making in a great degree of the future of your child. Above all guard your own conduct. What you would desire your child to become, that should be your daily life. Remember how easily your little one may be led to a. noble life if mother sets the example. And do not forget to pray with and for your children; ask the great All-Father’s help to lead them in the right path, that when the time shall come and you must give an account of the deeds done in the body, you may have the immeasurable happiness of saying : “ Her’e am 1, Lord, and also the children that thou didst give unto me.” ONE OF THE MOTHERS. ——————..._____ THE SCHOOL QUESTION. Dwells there within the borders of the HOUSEHOLD, a Don Quixote. or other spirit brave enough to attack the marital relation problem? If so, might not their efforts be as fruitless as the warfare of. the “ wind- mills” and “ windbags ?” Having been in- volved twenty-six years in this marital rela- tion business. I can think of no stage or‘ the game when the soundest philosophy would have availed me. All benefits received have been through dear bought experience. We see grave and grievous results from many of these relations, but the myriads of hidden causes are unknown to us, hence any pan- acea we might ofier would be ineffectual. I have grown to 100k upon these difliculties as self-adjusting, and when I see a family seemingly upon the verge of dissolution, I wait patiently the outbreak, confident when that is over the unhappy participants will set to rights their disordered household, and move on. better for their dear bought wisdom. Very different to me seems the topic, ”What can farmers’ wives do to better the district schools.” This is an open question and can be met by a well defined line of ac- tion. I know a few women who are work- ing zealously in this cause, and with good results. ‘If it is safe to judge the many by the few. I should say our district schools might be revolutionized by the judicious, united action of the farmers’ wives. In the first place, subscribe for an educational journal, find out the intent and purposes of our edu- cators, and in so far as they comport with your judgment, aid them in their labors. It has come to be known as a stubborn fact, that the indifierence of school patrons is the worst obstacle to be inst by this class of workers. Then visit your school Often, do not stay away because you are ignorant of the present methods of teaching, and unac- quainted with all the new text books con- tain. Iwould as often pin my faith upon the keen intuitive perceptions of a mether to detect misrule in the schoolroom. as the highly educated secretary. How parents, es- pecially mothers, can be so neglectful in this particular is, to me, the mystery of all mys- teries. Again, few school houses have all the proper appliances to aid in the dev. lop- ment of the child’s mind. With all the schemes that women resort to, at the present day, to raise funds, why has this great need been neglected ? But whatever else you may neglect, do not fail to be at the annual school meeting. Know just what rights you are entitled to, and see to it they are respected. You may not be very well received at first, for I have seen a great many Dr. J ekylls in this world, who were simply Mr. Hydes at the school meeting. Let not this discourage you: we passed through that in our district. and now we are expected and respected. I did not think to hold your attention so long; I wish- ed to show my approbation of. the discus- sion, and then leave the matter in better hands. The arousing of public sentiment in this direction can only result in good, and I hail it with joy. , Last summer I was asked to write a pape r for a farmers’ picnic, and no topic being as - signed, I wrote upon the condition of our rural schools. Our county paper admitted it to be rather good, but said “ it was not be- fitting the occasion,” and in wrath I cried out “ Is there a place between the pulpit and the gallows, where our country schools can fittingly be discussed ?” And last week a voice came to me saying “ Yes! in the HOUSEHOLD of the MICHIGAN FARMEB.” FLINT. MRS. WM. SWIFT. _._._‘_.....___ A WELCOME NEW COMER. Our Beatrix requests the ladies to write and help sustain the little paper that makes its welcome visits to so many of our homes ; and although the past numbers present an array of talent creditable to the authors, and no doubt satisfactory to the Editor, there is often an “ebb” after a “ flow.” Should this happen to be the case, a few words from me might be acceptable, though far less graced with new ideas or beauties of diction. Ever since reading about the " Editor Woman” in the HOUSEHOLD of December 7th, I have longed to meet her “ face to face,” and think I would not fear to enter her presence even as a morning caller; but would find her having like experiences to many Of us whose lives are more humble and secluded. How often we form our opinions too hastily and thoughtlesslyl For this the woman that lives in an elegant home, is faultlessly attired or well educated, is criti- cized by those not thus highly favored. In this way many are losing the companionship of some whose inner lives are more beauti- ful than any outward adorning they may possess. I think every aspiration that tends to the improvement of our homes, our per- sonal appearance or the cultivation of our minds, is worthy of our attention. Polly’s Second Cousin advances some very good thoughts, eloquently expressed, yet I cannot coincide with all her views. As she advances in life she will learn “it takes all sort of people to make a world.” It is Often the case that one whose heart is in the work, who is impartial in every act, with plenty of that almost indispensable quality called tact, can lead those of superior ability. But, Cousin, if your associations tend in the least to demoralize, there are plenty of avenues open for one of your seem- ing ability; do not fear to launch out. Fol- low the advice of one who says, “ Choose the company of your superiors whenever you can have it; that is the right and true pride,” and do not get discouraged in your warfare against evil. There is no reason for it. As! the world advances society should be on the up grade. Those who seek after a better standard for right and wrong, truth, purity and justice than they find in the world around them, who long to be better them-~ selves and to make others better also, will. triumph at last. FLORENCE. STORY Bmen. t,BJNE-".J«\ehv‘=&‘ifi;rw"‘ w ‘c: . A. >: 7 Lb :;..~., Ia i . re, a. Tlgli‘h» iii TAKING OFFENSE . “Time. to me, this truth has taught; ’ Pie a truth that’s worth revealing. More offend from want of thought Than from any want of feeling." How prone humanity is to “ take offense,” and yet how outraged the individual atom feels when her well intentioned words or acts are misconstrued and offense taken where none was intended! It seems one of the proofs of a well- balanced mind to be very slow to take offense, and certainly never to betray the feeling until assured beyond mistake that such injury was intended. Better by far let a slight or affront pass unnoticed, with a quiet dignity that compels respect, than to wound the feelings of a friend by imputing to her an offense of which she is innocent. These well-meaning but erratic souls who are ever on the alert to discover errors of personal treatment, can always have a full store of affliction. Slights, affronts and neglects, if not more aggressive features of mar-treatment. can be gathered by a sensi- tive, suspicious nature, when the innocent victims of these imputed misdemeanors walk on with clear consciences, wondering what causes the averted face, the injured tone, and cold welcome of the accusing friend. Very likely they charitably set it down to fault of the liver or spleen of the sufferer— sometimes rightly—or pass it off with the thought or remark: “It’s just like one of ——’s turns; she is making herself miserable over some fancied affront conjured up against some person. Oh! if she only knew how disagreeable she makes herself, and how hard it is for her friends to put up with such unjust imputations.” Such persons are their own worst enemies, but they need very sterling qualities in other directions to find true friends. To be perpetually fearing wrong construction of one’s acts and words must alienate trust and affection, and then the wretched suspect will whimper, “I told you so, she only pretended to care for me.” There are degrees in every state, and many who ordinarily practice the largest charity I "“ find some pet project ignored or defeated by“ trusted friend; just what, does not so much matter as the degree of importance attached to the object and the security felt in the aid and comfort expected or sought from the friend. From some cause the help or sympathy is not forthcoming; instead the reverse of what was expected is experienced, and the highly wrought feelings being sud- denly chilled. acute suffering results, an irrational and intemperate revulsion of feel- ing follows; all former excellencies of the friend disappear; all the confidence. the sympathetic help, and loving, kindly acts are forgotten, and only an implacable enemy, a scheming plotter remains. in that supreme moment, jaundiced eyes may see that all the former favor was only a long efi‘ort to win confidence, the more effectually to complete their overthrow, and exult in the downfall of their hopes and happiness. I have had experience myself with some of these human “ pepper pods,” and though a little of the condiment in life as in food may be invigorating and healthful, too but a dose makes one have the impulse to pitch the “whole mess to the dogs.” Such people lowing recipe for making a glue which and one half parts of nitric acid with 40 or 50 parts of water. In this soak 25 parts of glue for 24 hours, and then heat until it is of one consistency. necessary depends on the quality of the THE HOUSEHOLD. is, if endowed With lovable qualities as they usually are—the most affectionate are often the most exacting. To become personal, I wonder whether our Queen B. does not sometimes get cruel stings. She is placed in a chair of great re- ponsibility. and yet held to a rigid account- ability. She is one under authority. to whom is said “Do this or do that. and between these lines use care and discretion. We as editors and publishers, have to cater to then- sands of critical readers; and to our success- ful catering to their tastes. and keeping our paper to a high level, must its success or failure be due. To you is given the responsi- bility of making the HOUSHOLD department a success. In the editing of its pages you must bear in mind that its columns must be filled with what is suited to the character of the paper; to its limited space. to its inde- pendent secular profession, and to the taste of its readers.” The articles must be brief, there is small space ; they must be pure, practical, chatty, spicy, giving or seeking in- formation, brightly and earnestly discussing all topics pertaining to woman and home. Our Queen B. must take the matter kindly offered by her interested contributors, and. while thankfully receiving, must bring these inexorable rules to bear, and without show- ing fear or favor. acceptor reject such offer- ings, in whole or in part, as seems mcstcon- ducive to the interest of the FABMEB and its limited HOUSEHOLD. Remember, it is no reflection on the merit of an article (as such) that it is respectfully declined. it may be too long for the space allotted; it may be out of season, or incompatible with the objects and aims of the publishers; it may jar on others plans or purposes ; it might provoke too heated discussion ; it might be irrelevant to present topics ; in short. it might be out of joint with the Houanonn arrangements, and to the housekeeper. yclept the editor woman, must be conceded the right. as she alone must bear the reaponsibiltty, of arranging our offerings as to her seems right and proper. It has been my fortune to “ get a peep behind the scenes ” in several editorial sanctums, in a way to know something of an editor’s woes, and the more I know the more I realize the tact and care absolutely necessary to avcid frictions, to keep out personalities, to de- cline extraneous matter without giving of- fense, to adhere steadfastly to the sphere and scope of the paper—in snort it seems to me the editor, most of all, has to perform that extremely difficult duty—pleasing every- body. Let us all remember how we would resent being compelled to use any kitchen utensil a well-meaning friend might present us. but which we found unsuited to our needs. Let us be loyal to ourselves, and our much-buzz- ed Queen B. A. L. L. InoLasrnn. W THE Scientific American gives the fol- will remain liquid: Dilute two or two The quantity of acid re sweetly uncomfortable intimates—that J glue. 0 8 THE WOMAN IN WOMEN’S SOCIETIES. Yes, certainly, dear Second Cousin, scold to your heart’s content and relieve your troubled mind; for scolding is woman’s prerogative and an excellent escape valve, as more than one son of Adam has found to his sorrow. In these enlightened days and with the advantages which every woman may possess, let her life be ever so retired, we can scarce- ly imagine one laying down the law vehe- men tly or struggling for the mastery over the domain she calls home, or that when she emerges from this seclusion to become a member of any society she should at once become possessed with the belief that her knowledge on all subjects, be they great or small, is essential for the good of the soci- ety, or that the institution without her to dictate and pilot over the rough places must ultimately come to grief. When we look through smoked glass everything upon which we gaze is tinged that same color. Rushing to the front with offers of assistance and advice seldom comes from those who lead a secluded life; the modest and retiring de- meanor so admired by some is more in their line. Keenly conscious of any little mistake or awkwardness on their part, they usually escape the door through which “fools rush in.” Must a person necessarily be ill bred who has confidence to express her opinion and not waver from it, simply because it is not agreeable to the feelings of another ? All cannot think alike; and so by some they are considered aggressive them bushes, while the them bushes look upon the others in about the same light. If one is being im- proved and elevated by her children’s con— tact with society and schools, is it anything to be ashamed of ? So long as there is an incentive to a higher life, advancement is commendable. The moon shines by reflected light. but do we think any the less of it for that, or cease to admire its silvery radiance as it rests upon flower and shrub and wav- ing grass i’ The question what is the wisest course for the better bred and educated—to submit or withdraw from the society whose members consist of aggressive'thorn bushes and dic- tatorial or bossy women, must be answered by the questioner, as she undoubtedly un- derstands better than any other how much association and contact with them will make or mar her reputation and peace, believing as she does that no one can associate with an- other without being elevated or sunk to their level. Take for instance a person of superior mind, like DeWitt Talmage. Would contact with a person of grosser mind have any in- fluence upon him ? Persons of innate noble- ness and refinement seldom sink to very low depths. they are not plastic in the hands of their associates; their inherent qualities of mind and heart enable them to easily dis- criminate between right and wrong. Only those who are refined in outward appear- ance and endeavoring to impress others with a sense of their superiority find their level with their inferio against temptation they are weakened. . By not struggling . her own fair womanhood, there is no danger Pure in heart and sweetly conscious of THE HOUSEHOLD. from contaminating influence. Mrs. Cleve- land can never be other than the gracious lady she is, kind and considerate and help- ful to all. yet a depraved nature would re- pel rather, than attract her. A young girl once entered as teacher a district school and found to her astonish- ment and dismay that many of the larger scholars were as far advanced in certain branches as herself. What should she do? Failure meant more than loss of school; it would deprive herself and the loved ones dependent upon her of bread. it would ruin forever her reputation as teacher. It was a grave question which she faced bravely and alone, and decided that she must succeed. Night after night, often in a cold cheerless room, this brave girl studied until the lessons for the following day were perfect, and finished the term successfully, while none dreamed how hard it had been for her. If a young girl can accomplish so much why may not the leader of a literary or any other society improve and elevate herself, until she, too, is capable of leading her fol- lowers to intellectual hights rarely attained. Hem JERUSHA ANN. WHAT IS WORSHIP? Unlike Dafiodilly, I am sorry that the columns of our progressive little paper are closed to the discussion of any public ques- tion, as Sabbath observance has now become. The petitions being circulated in favor of the Sunday rest bill and the action of some of the trunk lines of railroad in discontinuing a part of the Sunday trains, the omission of military drills and parades, are all indicative of abetter public sentiment upon Sabbath desecration. While farmers are not as a class Sabbath breakers. the discussion of any subject outside of the routine of do- mestic life, and especially any moral ques- tion, broadens their outlook, and by calling attention to the needs of the larger home— the world—:becomes a mental and moral tonic. Human nature is the same every- where, the tendency is always downward, and if there is not spiritual as well as in- tellectuai uplift supplied by home papers the moral plane of each generation will be lower than that of the preceding one. A. H. J’s article on “Making Sunday” is most suggestive and helpful. How many pleasant memories for future years can be supplied to the child by the freedom of the parlor, a bright ribbon or new tie used only on that day, accompanied always by some religious teaching which develops the spirit- ual nature of the child, or a story told by mamma—so much more interesting than any found in books! One of the most pleasing memories of my early childhood is that of the family grouped around the open fire on Sunday evening in the winter’s twilight, reciting in concert the Lord’s Prayer or the Commandments. Being the youngest it was my privilege to lay my head in mother’s lap, a treat not to be forgotten. How little effort it requires to make the Sabbath a de- light to a child not spoiled by over in dulgence. Used to an active life, there comes over me, especially on Sunday afternoons in summer, an almost uncontrollable desire to go out in the open air, so taking the Sunday fields to the woods where there is a side hill overlooking a winding pebbly creek. shaded by forest trees. The landscape beyond in- cludes meadows, cultivated fields. hills and valleys, with groups of trees here and there, beautiful to look upon. The sounds are the chirping of the birds. the rustle of squirrels, the lowing of cattle in the distance, the tinkling of bells, and the rippling of water, and above, the whisper of winds in the tree tops. Could there be a temple more worship- inspiring than this ? The church service, although enjoyable, does not so call out all that is reverent and devout in my nature as does this bit of woodland. I believe the reverent observance of the Sabbath includes such things and such only as bring the soul into sweetest communion with its Creator, and reinforce it for the trials and temptations of the week to come, and it is the most helpful to others. “The Sab- bath was made for man,” for his spiritual and intellectual growth as well as physical rest, and anything subversive of this is a desecration of the day. Ioura. LILLA LEE. —....—-——— USES FOR BIRCH BARK. Will say to G. F. 0. that a nice way to use her birch bark is to cut strips in the shape of acanoe, make holes through the pieces at one end, tie together with ribbon, paint a pretty design on the cover and use it for an autograph album; or write quota- .tions from favorite authors on the leaves. or possibly paint a pretty little design on each leaf for a book of views. Any one of these makes a pretty ornament and keepsake. 1 should think it would be pretty cut palette shape, though the one I saw was in the form of a canoe. The number of leaves de- pends of course on the amount of bark she has. Her own ingenuity will help to vary these suggestions. I have a quantity of birch bark gathered by myself in Grand Traverse County over five years ago, and have always meant to work it up in this way but never have. Having received this little poke about it, I guess I’ll go to work. Would like to wring Daifodilly’s hand on the cat question. I once had fourteen, but upon being given so many days by the family in which to decrease the number under pain of extermination, thereupon proceeded to bestow them as gifts upon my friends. At present the range numbers but four. I think Daifodilly would make a splendid neighbor, just my kind. Wouldn’t it be nice if the members of the HOUSEHOLD could hold a convention and all go? There are some members of this family I very much desire to see and know. Ah now! How quietly the holidays stole in upon us and away again. Baby has passed his first Christmas; nearly nine months old and not a tooth in his dear little golden head. How afresh call from Beatrix wakes up us sleepy ones for a while, then how easy to doze back again for the next tensor! 1 never miss sword of the HOUSEHOLD. As some one said a short time ago, I read every word—recipes and all. Was much wrought up on the gentleman question. The idea of any one’s saying that if she sees a young she immediately sets him down in her mind as no gentleman! That as well as the Sabbath question was argued to death, so we will let the deceased "Rest in peace." Thanks, Lilla Lee, for saying a few words to Outis in December. I always feel like sassing him a little whenever he comes. Guess he hasn’t found that paragon of per: fection he was hunting for two years ago. You see he expects too much; and it won’t do him one mite of good to come to the HOUSEHOLD for sympathy. ALBION. EUPHE MIA. MRS. C. A. RICE, of Flint, sends in a few quotations from “Josh Billings” in re- sponse to the request in a late House:- HOLD. It was our intention to forward those sent in by mail, but as these ‘are few in number and wise in sentiment, we insert them: “The trouble with some people who brag of their ancestry is in their great descent.” “I thank God for allowing fools to live, that wise men may get a living out of them.” “If a. fellow gets to going down bill, it seems as if every thing were greased for the occasion.” “Wealth won‘t make a man virtuous, but there ain’t anybody who Wants to be poor just for the purpose of being good.” “If you want to keep a mule in a pasture turn him into an adjacent meadow and he’ll jump in.” “I’ve known a mule to be good for six months just to get a chance to kick somebody.” “Men should not boast so much; a little hornet if he feels well can break up a whole camp meeting.” “ The man who has a thousand friends Has not a friend to spare; But he who has one enemy, Will meet him everywhere.” __..__...___ IN canninglfruits, fermentation is the one thing to be avoided. This is induced in canned fruits by using poor sugar; by use of fruits which from being overripe or from any other cause has begun to ferment: by not driving air out of the fruit by suf- ficient heat, or by allowing air to enter the cans after supposed sealing. The first three causes are easily avoided, the last, also, if care is taken to fill the jars to overflowing. to rotate them until the air bubbles pass off, and to moisten the rubbers so the suction will be perfect. The most important point is to have good rubbers, closely fitting; they very soon become stretched. __._—Q..——— U seful Recipes. GENUINE BOSTON FISH BALLs.--80ak the fish in cold water ten or 'fifteen minutes, then pick it up fine; fill acup solidly. Pare and cut potatoes into quarters. Put one pint of the potato into a stew-pan, place the fish on top, cover with boiling water and cook until the potato is soft. Drain, mash, and add an egg, well beaten, and a saltspoonful of pep- per. Fish balls should not be made too soft as they wiil then soak fat. If the mixture seems too moist add a little pounded cracker, flour will make the balls pasty. Shape with a tablespoon and fry in a basket in ho: lard. Lay on brown paper a minute to absorb the surplus fat. Some cooks roll fish balls in eggs and crumbs and then try, but a plain fish ball is generally most acceptable and the extra work or crumbing is not appreciated. Warmed over fish will not make good fish balls. Cold fish and potatoes will not mix in that creamy mass that the ingredients make when mashed as soon as taken from the fire. The fish balls man meet a lady without removing his hat, School Time: and Union Signal. I go across should be fried until brown